Best thing that worked for us was no undies! I don't know how cold it is where you are and if it's feasible but something about feeling ANYTHING on the bottom made my kids feel like it was safe to "go". If they had naked bottoms, they could stay dry. So we stayed home for a few days and I just had my daughter wear dresses w/ nothing underneath and we went and sat on the potty every hour at first, then stretched it out until she got the idea. Also, we did LOTS of fun drinks (capri sun, juice, 7-up even) and salty snacks (pretzels, chips). NOT a day to worry about the diet! Just food to make her thirsty and special drinks that make her want to drink a lot. Makes for more opportunities to potty! Good luck! It will happen!
For my little one, once we did the naked potty days, she lost interest until we let her pick out which panties she wanted. With a variety of Tink, Princess, and Ponies, she had some say in the ordeal and happily wore what she picked and as long as we kept the potty close (our house... living room) for a few weeks she did great! Good luck!
No undies! Don't ask if she needs to go, just take her every hour or so and take back the pull-ups... they're too comfortable and absorbent, they'll hinder the process. When she does go you can reward her with stickers, a potty dance, and lots of excitement. Stay positive and encouraging for her. Good luck!
Once you start, DON'T stop. Don't go back to a diaper, unless it's naptime or bedtime. Think through the rewards. I recommend not using treats unless you absolutely have to resort to that. We started with treats as a reward and quickly realized our son was getting too many sweets in one day. Go at regualar intervals and praise whether she goes potty or not. When my son doesn't make it to the potty we call it a whoops instead of an accident and I make sure to never scold him for having a whoops. Good luck. Every child is different.Oh, and poop in the underwear is a valid reason to just throw it away. It's a lot worse to clean poopy underwear than it is to clean a poopy diaper. :)
Oh, and definitely take back the pull ups.
Don't push her. If she isn't ready, it's only going to lead to frustration for both of you. I started early with my daughter and it took us years literally to get her potty trained, my son I waited longer and he was a cinch to potty train.
I tried training my 2 yr old and it was an emotional mess.....she just was not ready at that time even when I was :) There are signs to look for esp does she know that she is going pee or poop in her diaper? If she doesn't know how to recognize that "feeling" it will be more frustrating for you and her. Every kid is different, every mom is different. She is 2 1/2 now and I still don't think she is ready so I have not pushed it. But we do talk about it all the time so it won't be a scary thing when the time is right! Hopefully for the both of us by the time she is 3 :) GOOD LUCK!!!!!
I have not done the no undies days yet, because we are really busy with activities, so it just does not work for us. We did undies for a week with one of my twin girls, she did great, but started not going poop and holding it...not something i wanted her to do...so i pulled back a little bit and she is now in a pull-up...never thought i would use them, but she is dry all day in them and feels okay to go poop in them too, so i am okay with it for now.not sure when we are going to put in in undies again...maybe in a few weeks.the other twin...had lots of interest about 3 months ago and now wants nothing to do with it.don't push it, when she is ready she is ready. i am hoping that the one that is wearing a pull up and stays dry during the day and is dry after nap will be in undies within the next few weeks.hope that helps!
Thanks for all the advice! I think Mackenzie is ready. I'm just not sure I am :) She's been asking to wear big girl undies and to go on the big girl potty for a month. I kept telling her once she was 2 she could so now that's she's 2 we are going to give it a try. We'll see how it goes...Any thoughts about using a little potty vs. putting one of those little seats on the normal potty? Thanks so much for all your help!
my son turned 3 in october, he's been in pull ups since march! we're getting tired of it! he knows how/when he has to go but i agree, i think the pull ups say 'it's ok to go here, it cleans up'.but we're traveling for christmas so now is not the time to abandon them.i like the naked idea! or underwear and absorbent pants, at least it'll slow down the wet should she not make it to the potty.we don't have a main floor bathroom so i have a potty downstairs and a seat on the toilet. my son uses both and sometimes asks for one over the other.good luck and hang in there!
I agree with 'nakie days' ideas! My DD2 potty trained herself within 24 hours when I finally gave up on everything else and just put her potty in the middle of the living room and let her run around half naked. If I had done that from the get-go i would have saved myself two weeks of frustration and failure. Poop is another creature altogether. My kid had to get super constipated from trying not to poop for a few days before she finally had to go so bad she was shaking and then I just held her on the toilet and hugged her. She was one of those gets who was scared of going number 2. She went and we said 'byebye poop' and I told her the poop was going swimming like a fishie. She still has a few problems with poop and often doesn't say anything til she's already starting to go, but she's not even 2 1/2 yet so pretty good I'd say!
We made a sticker board- just covered a piece of cardboard with construction paper, punched two holes on the top and threaded some ribbon through to make a handle to hang on the door knob. For the first couple of days, he got one sticker for sitting on it, two for peeing, and three for pooping. We'd let him pick a sticker and place it on the board. He loved it. After he got the hang of it, he'd only get one for asking to go. Now he just gets stickers when he does something that we feel deserves one (putting toys away without being asked, etc). We used the pull ups but mostly because I also have a baby and sometimes his accidents were my fault - couldn't bring him to the potty quick enough because I was changing his sister's diaper. Good luck!
I have to agree with several of the previous comments. With my middle child, NO undies was the way to go. I'd put her in dresses and she'd go on the potty every time. Since it's cold, you could put leg warmers on her legs with dresses. I was coerced into using pull-ups at preschool and they set us back MONTHS. I will never use them again!And taking them to the potty at consistent times. Since Evie was such a big drinker, we went every 30 minutes some days. Not fun when you're also nursing an infant. ;)
My son was 26 months when I decided to try. I made sure I did it during a week where we didn't have to go or be anywhere. By day 3 he totally had it!I would say use the PullUps only for nap and bedtime. My son called them a diaper so he would go in them all the time.As far as rewards - we made a 10 square chart. I put the numbers in the chart and for everytime he went he got a sticker. If he went #1 and #2 he got 2 stickers. We told him before his first sticker when he got 10 he would get a treat and he said he wanted a train. So, I cut out a picture of a train and put it in the #10 square. When he was successful, we made a special trip to the store just for that and NOTHING else. I made sure the whole way there I reminded him how proud I was of him. He LOVED it and to this day, he still knows he got that train for going potty.We also did candy treats while we were out. We aren't big on letting him have sweets, so he knew that the candy was a big deal. He got 1 M&M for #1 and 2 M&M's for #2. This was easy for when we needed to be out and couldn't do the stickers. He liked the stickers better....My son hated the little potty. We bought one, but he didn't like that. So, we bought a little seat for the big potty and he didn't like that either. He just wanted to go without anything. I'd say if you can skip the little potty, you are better off. It will be another transition to go to the big potty and plus you don't have the option of a little potty when you are out and that could hinder the process.All in all, it was a smooth process for us. A whole week in the house was frustrating, but so worth it in the end! I'd say just remember this is 2-3 days of your life and how nice it will be to have it over with! Good luck!
Let me know if you like the potty. There are so many different ones I have no idea! we are not anywhere near there yet but would like to know! Good luck!
In answer to the question about little potty vs. big potty...We tried doing the big potty first with the little seat attached, but my son was too intimidated. We then bought a little potty chair and he felt a lot more comfortable. It took him about 2 weeks on that before he started asking to sit on the big potty. Now we keep the little potty chair in the back of the car for times when it's an emergency. It works great! Just be sure you have wipes and hand sanitizer available in the car!
Response to your question, I like the little potty at first. It's so much easier to sit on, no climbing involved. And you can take it everywhere! I actually had two so we could have one at home and one "on the go". :o) I took it outside when we played outside, I took it to the park...just kept it close by so that if she needed to go but didn't give me a lot of warning, hopefully she could still have success. Once you have more warning, the big potty is awesome and I saw ditch that little potty as soon as it becomes possible for her to still be successful w/ the extra amount of time it takes to get to a big potty! If she's ready, it shouldn't take too much work. Do what works best for you/her! Naked bottoms vs new fun undies, doesn't matter! And ps, I would never worry about nighttime dryness right now. That varies so much w/ each child and much of it is not under their control. Can't wait for the fun stories that follow!
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